Being a parent is incredibly fulfilling and at times one of the most challenging things you’ll ever do. Parenting is demanding not only because of your child and his/her behavior but because of you and your childhood experiences.
Despite good intentions to be a patient parent, do you find conversations with your kids suddenly turning into a storm of frustration and yelling you did not see coming?
Don’t worry, you’re not alone.
All parents struggle from time to time. And almost all want to improve their relationship with their children. The fact that you’re searching for parenting answers and support is a sign of courage and demonstrates your self-awareness and love for your child.
What you also need to know is no matter how old your child is, it is never too late for them to have a happy childhood. You can create a happier and healthier childhood for her/him by:
- Increasing your connection with your child
- Decreasing the conflict between you
- Decreasing and managing your reactivity
- Understanding the impact of your own childhood on your parenting
- Increase your ability to provide healthy safety, structure, and support that is necessary for their growth.
You can do all of this by parenting consciously instead of reactively.
When you learn to consciously parent you can improve your child’s life and well-being because you’ll be able to:
- Give thoughtful responses
- Become curious about what’s going on with your child
- Provide validation of what s/he is thinking and feeling even if you don’t agree with him/her
- Have insight into your past in a new way which may promote healing old wounds
Working with a skilled parenting coach is one way you can improve your relationship with your child. Coaching can help you identify what specifically it is that derails you from being the parent you want to be and learn to use this information to parent more consciously.
As a parenting coach, I provide a safe and respectful space for us to talk about the challenges all parents face - including the challenges we bring with us based on our own history and stories.
Often it’s our personal history that gets in the way of being the parents we truly want to be.
I can help you change that. I can teach you how to move past what prevents you from parenting the way you want to.
I can teach you how to communicate with your child in a more loving, and humane way. To do that, we’ll identify your conversational habits that undermine your ability to parent effectively. Then we’ll put together a strategy for you to break those bad habits.
I can teach you how to explore and make better sense of your own childhood. When you do that, you’ll be surprised by the powerful and important changes that will naturally occur in your ability to parent more consciously and be more present moment to moment.
I can teach you how to listen with compassion. We will accomplish this by increasing your and your child’s sense of safety during difficult conversations.
If you’re tired of feeling defeated and worried that you’re failing as a parent, reach out to me.
Let’s schedule some time to chat so you can begin your journey creating healthier and more connected relationships with your children.
A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole. Then it stopped as if it could not go further.
So, the man decided to help the butterfly and took a pair of scissors and snipped open the remaining parts of the cocoon. The butterfly emerged easily, however its body was swollen and its wings shriveled.
The man continued to watch the butterfly, expecting that at any moment it would take flight. It did not. In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around. Although the man was trying to be helpful, what he did not know was that the struggle required by the butterfly to emerge through the tiny hole in the cocoon forces fluid from the body into the wings so it will be ready for flight once that is achieved.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what children need, and often when parents try to “fix” their children’s problems, they often unintentionally interfere with their child’s growth.
